There's no doubt in my mind, well maybe a little, that you already know this but I am going to say it anyway: Meryl's Safe Haven was founded to provide shelter and resources to young people aging out of the foster care system. At its foundation, MSH was founded on the idea that we all need a place to call home, that we need a community to call our own, and that we have all been challenged by life and the holiday season doesn’t (always) bring relief.
The holiday season is often seen as a time for joy, celebration, and cheer, but let’s be real—for so many it is a reminder of what was. Family members who are no longer with us; family members you don't want to be around; and/or isolation that feels a bit too welcoming for comfort. A whirlwind of emotions sandwiched between what is supposed to be the happiest time of year and something you just can't put your finger on but you can't stop crying anyway. In search of perfection for the in-laws or parents who only visit this time of year, you feel the need to create the perfect holiday gathering. And if that wasn't enough stress, you're hopeful the conversation won't cross over into politics while “enjoying” everyone’s company. With family gatherings, shopping, and event planning, prioritizing your mental health during this busy time is crucial.
I'm thinking "woosah" even as I write this.
The reality is, while the previously mentioned chaos is enough to drive anyone mad, for many it's not even an option. For some, there is no family to drive them crazy. For others, the thought of willingly revisiting that trauma is enough to make them want to embody the Grinch. Either way, maintaining your mental well-being is vital.
Understanding Holiday Stress
The holidays bring unique stressors that can significantly affect mental health. Financial pressures, increased workloads, complicated family dynamics or no sense of family/community can make the season feel overwhelming. This idea that holidays have to be spent a certain way could make someone feel like they are missing out on something that's not their scene to begin with - I speak on the behalf of introverts all over the world.
Additionally, the combination of long winter nights and short daytime hours can also impact moods, leading many to feel down and fatigued - I speak as someone who feels like they should be in bed when the sun goes down but wouldn't know what to do with so little time on their hands - enjoying rest, unfortunately, comes at a cost as well.
The one thing I love about this time of year is the ability to connect with people - I know, that sounds weird coming from me but it's true. Growing up, there were times when we had holiday meals in the yard of our church. Whether you were escaping family or in search of family, housing insecure and/or financially unstable you were welcomed to the table and it’s something I’ve continued as a adult and something I want to continue as a CEO with any and everyone in search of community and a hot meal on Thanksgiving day: join us.
Go ahead, click the link. I dare you. Before you flat out say no to either (clicking the link or joining us), keep reading for some tips and things to consider this time of year - call it á la carte of advice - with time to think.
It's Important to Connect with Others
Though the holidays can sometimes feel isolating, maintaining connections is critical. Quality time with uplifting people can provide comfort and joy any time of the year but especially the holiday season.
Mindfulness and Meditation
Hear me out: when people used to ask me if I practiced mediation I would look at them as if they had three heads; if you were to ask me now, I would likely light up like the Grinch when he decided to steal Christmas! Mindfulness and meditation can be incredibly effective even if your busy mind finds it difficult to settle down.
If you’re new to mindfulness, there are many apps and videos available that can guide you through meditation practices.
Plan for Downtime
In the midst of holiday hustle, it’s essential to schedule downtime. This is your dedicated time to rest, recharge, and reflect. If you’re an introvert, it’s also a good time to decide if you want to back out of those plans you agreed to months ago when you were feeling like a extrovert.
Manage Your Expectations
The holidays often come with high expectations, both from yourself and those around you. Remember, perfection is an unrealistic goal, and it’s fine if things don’t unfold perfectly.
Focus on creating meaningful experiences rather than aiming for picturesque moments. This shift in mindset can greatly alleviate stress.
Seek Professional Help, if Needed
Sometimes the holiday season can trigger deeper issues that may require professional support. If holiday stress leads to anxiety, depression, or overwhelming feelings, don’t hesitate to reach out for help. Again, this can be a challenging time of the year for a variety of reasons! Don’t assume the “best time of the year” makes everything else disappear - life doesn’t work that way.
Fact is, this time of year can be hard and like individuals, organizations have a lot going on but it is also a time for us to reflect and show appreciation for those who have engaged and supported us along the way. Do consider joining us in community on November 28, 2024 and on January 25, 2025, when we can also show our appreciation for you.
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